Confidence in yourself and your own abilities is primarily an inner feeling. Demeanor, visible from the outside, is primarily determined by what the person feels. If someone who was always quiet and timid, try to learn only the outward signs, he is unlikely to deceive others. Real inner strength people feel intuitively. So trust your feelings.
Pay attention to how the person moves. Confident people do not fuss, they are calm, sometimes somewhat slow, but not sluggishness, but as if from the awareness of the importance of each of their act of movement.
Listen to how people speak. Important signs are natural gestures and intelligible speech, which occur mainly affirmative sentences, and almost not present such phrases as "I don't know", "not sure." The volume level is such that the interviewee was most comfortable to perceive what was said. If it is designed for a large number of participants, we are confident people will speak loud and clear, and situations when it is better not to make any noise, his speech will be quiet.
A characteristic feature of a confident person is direct look, open expression, and the correspondence between the emotions that he experiences from those shows. Strong people are not shy to show its true face, and it attracts them to others.
Aggressiveness can be a sign of strength, but in reality it is an indication that the person is very afraid. The impudence, arrogance – all these qualities indicate that the aggressor in the depths of the soul is afraid that if he will behave safely, it simply no one will notice.
There is another important point that may be visible to others immediately, but after a certain time communication. Is the ability to go for their goals, not looking at others, do not hesitate and do not regret had to lose for the sake of it.
To accurately determine self-confident, it is important to know also the signs of insecurity. Soft speech, full of unnecessary explanations and details, a large number of hints, impersonal sentences, hesitation in the gestures: all this need to hide their wishes or demands, to present them in a veiled form. The position of such a person is usually unnatural, his shoulders are slumped and he looks into eyes, gestures too strong or almost absent.