To understand the reason for this daughter, first ask yourself the question: if you were able to push her out of the house with their words or actions? Many children (especially girls) are overly sensitive to the criticisms from parents. Once sown in her daughter the seed of doubt is, whether you like it, you can start the mechanism of development of an inferiority complex. So you should be careful with the words that you speak daughter. Cheer her up in difficult times, and don't call incompetent or stupid.
From the house where comfortable, do not go away. So, you have created such conditions that the only remedy for daughter was the departure. Constant scandals and conflicts in the house do not contribute to improvement of microclimate in the family. The child is constantly humiliated parents, to seek support from friends. Those, in turn, can incite him to escape from the house. Girls are harder to decide on such, they are more tied to home and family. But, driven to despair, the daughter and pack up and leave - to return it because of the greater sensitivity and vulnerability will be much harder than the boy. So you need to work on yourself to be able to return a daughter back home. She will not return if the rest will feel the same negative attitude.
To persuade the daughter to come home, stock up on warm words and patience. Don't, refused, to yell and to appeal to the fact that you have spent on her education whole life, and she treats you so disrespectful. Gently tell her that you realized your mistakes and miss her a lot. Based on kinship and spiritual connection with your daughter you will achieve the desired results.