The reason for the reluctance to learn

Before you understand how to get teenagers to learn, need to know the reason he doesn't want to do it yourself. The reasons may be very different, for example, he constantly thinks about walks in the company of his friends or can't break away from a favorite computer games. In any case, without an answer to this question is the solution to the problem would be extremely difficult.

The emotions of a teenager

Examine the emotional state of the teenager, perhaps, difficulty learning, difficulty of the tasks that he faced, forced him to give up. In this case, you have to work on motivation. Fear of the study, anxiety for the result and lack of confidence can also lead to the fact that the child will simply refuse to do.


Remember that some teenagers main priority is socializing with friends and doing favorite things. This attitude to business is transferred by them in school, study when it is perceived as a forced necessity. If your child and does not apply to such children, certainly in his class are a teenager, negatively affect classmates. Tell your teen that a good education does not imply lack of friends. Tell stories from your childhood, tell about his school friends and how you went to school.
If you parent alone, try to find child-appropriate approach, given the lack of influence of the other parent. The wrong approach can exacerbate the situation.

Keep it positive

Do not simply praise or words of support only if the child is doing something good. This approach makes the teenager to avoid mistakes and difficulties. If your child came home from school, receiving a failing grade for a test, do not scold him. Treat this with understanding, and say words of support.
Perhaps the teenager took the courage to tell you about a bad grade, in this case, your response will be particularly important.


If the teenager does not like doing homework, don't tell him, "Go do your homework", instead, sit beside him at the table and don't move until you are sure that he really started to do it. Some adolescents need a little push, and then continue to do the work.

Do not press

Do not expect your child that he was as successful and good as, for example, you. If it does not perform any work on the house, it doesn't mean that he's irresponsible, it means that he's only a teenager. Do not scold him for details, become a friend for him. Take his mistakes with a sense of humor, while reminding us of its responsibilities. Use unusual or in-game forms of communication, for example, leave notes with a reminder that they need to do their homework.

Constant lecturing is the opposite effect, it forced the child to take a defensive position. Often spend with him brainstorming with regards to his studies. Teenagers are more inclined to follow his own plan.