You will need
- - The Book "Trust", F. Fukuyama, 2006;
- - Consultation of psychologist.
Don't be afraid of the risk of loss. A person who is afraid to take risks, will never be trusted. You need to learn how to learn from previous negative experiences associated with trust. Consider a situation when someone you trusted and were deceived, make conclusions and move on. Yes, it's possible you'll commit, but the risk you are trusting people with your secrets and plans, ultimately, will always be justified.
Do not cling to the past, especially the negative past, or the fear of trust will give you to develop. Leave in the past all their former ties and relationships. You may even need to "throw" out all the accumulated negative. This release will allow you to see the situation from the other, positive, side. Don't think about the fact that you in all respects – the victim. Think about how it would be better to respond to an event, what action to take, who to contact for support or help.
Do not hesitate to contact psychologists. You will be surprised the results! Many do not even realize, but most of all our problems and experiences are from our childhood. A particularly striking example of restraint, aggression or fear may be her parents ' divorce, which you experienced as a child. You sought to establish a relationship with both parents, but it failed because you aggressive they are perceived. Such childhood experiences as the understanding that the parents dumped you, become big problems at that age, when you may already be parents themselves. The psychologist will help you to find the true causes of your problems. You may need to mentally go back in time and make it a completely different solution, which will depend very much in your real life today.